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10.不要发送任何不适合众人眼睛邮件和信息。在这个信息社会里，你永远不能保证什么都掉入众人的目光里。

11. You can’t motivate people. The best you can hope for is to inspire them with your actions. People who think they can use behavioral “science” or management techniques have not spent enough time on the receiving end of either.

11.你不能激励一个人。你最多能期望你的行动能够激励他们，那些会行为学或者管理技术的人们不会花时间作为一个接受者的。

12. If you find yourself swimming with all the other fish, go the other way. They don’t know where they’re going either.

12.如果你发现你自己随波逐流的时候，放弃这条路吧。他们自己都不知道自己要去哪。

13. You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. That physical reality dictates we’ll miss most things. We can’t read all the good books, watch all the good films, go to all the best cities in the world, try all the best restaurants, meet all the great people. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful.

13.你将错过很多事情，但这是很正常的。我们如此奋力的尝试做所有事情，经历所有重要的事情，不错过任何重要的事情，而我们忽略了简单的事实：我们不能经历所有的事情。这个现实表明我们会错过很多事情；我们不能读完所有的好书，看完所有经典电影，去世界上所有美丽的城市，住过所有顶级的旅馆，碰见所有的伟人。但这秘密在于：当我们放弃尝试所有事情时，生活会变的更美好。学会享受你经历的那一页生活那么生活将变得精彩无比。

14. Mistakes are the best way to learn. Don’t be afraid to make them. Try not to repeat the same ones too often.

14.错误是学习的最好方式。不要害怕犯错；但尽量不要频繁的重复犯错

15. Failures are the stepping stones to success. Without failure, we’ll never learn how to succeed. So try to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure through fear.

15.失败是成功的垫脚石。没有失败，我们也不会学会怎样成功。所以与其害怕、逃避失败，不如尝试失败

16. Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forget to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs. In fitness, you see it constantly: people training for a marathon getting burned out because they don’t know how to let their straining muscles and joints recover. People who try to do too much because they don’t know that rest is where their body gets stronger, after the stress.

16.休息比你想象来的重要。人们总是努力工作忘掉了休息进而开始讨厌他们的工作。在健康方面，你总是能看见，练习马拉松的人会精疲力竭；那是因为他们不懂得让他们紧绷的肌肉和关节恢复。做过多运动的人们不懂得在锻炼过后，休息才会让他们的身体变得更加强健。

17. There are few joys that equal a good book, a good walk, a good hug, or a good friend. All are free.

17.很少有乐趣比得上一本好书，一次舒心的散步，一个温馨拥抱或一个好友。这些都是无价的。

18. Fitness doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a long process, a learning process, something that happens in little bits over a long period. I’ve been getting fit for five years now, and I still have more to learn and do. But the progress I’ve made has been amazing, and it’s been a great journey.

18.健康不是一天就得来的，这个是很长的过程，一个不断学习的过程，很长时间内才会有一点进展的事情。我健身已经5年了，但是我还是有许多要学要做。但是这过程本身就是一个另人称奇，不错的经历

19. The destination is just a tiny slice of the journey. We’re so worried about goals, about our future, that we miss all the great things along the way. If you’re fixated on the goal, on the end, you won’t enjoy it when you get there. You’ll be worried about the next goal, the next destination.

19.目的地只是旅行中很小的一部分。我们对结果，未来担心太多了以至于错过了很多沿途的风景。如果你总是关注于目标和结果，那么当你到达那里时也不能好好享受那时光。你会关心下一个目标，下一个目的地。

20. A good walk cures most problems. Want to lose weight and get fit? Walk. Want to enjoy life but spend less? Walk. Want to cure stress and clear your head? Walk. Want to meditate and live in the moment? Walk. Having trouble with a life or work problem? Walk, and your head gets clear.

20.一次舒心的漫步可以解决很多问题。想要减肥和保持健康吗？去散步吧！想要既不花销又享受生活吗？去散步吧！想要减压保持清醒吗？去散步吧！想要沉思并活在当下吗？去散步吧！有了生活或工作的烦恼？去散步吧，你的头脑

21. Let go of expectations. When you have expectations of something — a person, an experience, a vacation, a job, a book — you put it in a predetermined box that has little to do with reality. You set up an idealized version of the thing (or person) and then try to fit the reality into this ideal, and are often disappointed. Instead, try to experience reality as it is, appreciate it for what it is, and be happy that it is.

21.放下期望。当你对一个人，一次经历，一段旅行，一分工作，一本书抱有期望时，你就将这一个现实不能改变太多的期望模式里。你自己为这事（人）建立一个理想的框架，然后和现实做比较，而结果通常让人失望。相反的，去经历现实真实的样子，欣赏它本来的面目并为之高兴。

22. Giving is so much better than getting. Give with no expectation of getting something in return, and it becomes a purer, more beautiful act. To often we give something and expect to get an equal measure in return — at least get some gratitude or recognition for our efforts. Try to let go of that need, and just give.