38年里38条人生经验(4)

31.我们在学校学到的，自己通过媒体了解的（新闻，电影，书籍，杂志，网络）都有我们必须遵照的某种世界观。弄清这种是个什么样的世界观并对此保持怀疑态度。问自己是否有其他选择，其他可以研究的方法等。提示：是企业操控我们所有信息的影响力嘛？其他提示：访问琼斯基

32. Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information. We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art.

32.学会同理心。我们时常通过一点点信息来评断一个人。我们必须尽量了解他们在做什么，设身处地来思考问题，从开始就假设他们这样做是有真正的原因，如果我们能知道他们正在经历些什么。如果你学会了这点，那么你的生活将变得更加精彩。

33. Do less. Most people try to do too much. They fill life with checklists, and try to crank out tasks as if they were widget machines. Throw out the checklists and just figure out what’s important. Stop being a machine and focus on what you love. Do it lovingly.

33.少做一点。大多数人都尝试做的更多。他们像完成清单似地来对待生活，好似自己是部小机器似地努力地完成自己生产任务。忘掉那些清单吧，只是找出最重要的部分；不要再做一部机器了，专注于那些你喜欢的。并带着爱意去做！

34. No one knows what they’re doing as parents. We’re all faking it, and hoping we’re getting it right. Some people obsess about the details, and miss out on the fun. I just try not to mess them up too much, to show them they’re loved, to enjoy the moments I can with them, to show them life is fun, and stay out of the way of them becoming the amazing people they’re going to become. That they already are.

34.没有人知道当了父母会做些什么。我们所有人不懂装懂，并希望自己都是正确的。很多人纠缠于细节而错过了很多乐事。我只是尽量不去纠缠太多，向他们展示他们喜欢的，享受和他们一起的时刻，向他们传达生活很美好，在他们变成了不起人的时候将自己置身事外。现在他们已经成为了。

35. Love comes in many flavors. I love my children, completely and more than I can ever fully understand. I love them each in a different way, and know that each is perfect in his or her own way.

35.爱以很多味道存在着。我爱我的孩子们，爱的程度超出了我可以理解和表达程度。我对他们的爱是不同形式的，我知道他们每个人都是完美的。

36. Life is exceedingly brief. You might feel like there’s a huge mass of time ahead of you, but it passes much faster than you think. Your kids grow up so fast you get whiplash. You get gray hairs before you’re done getting your bearings on life. Appreciate every damn moment.

36.生命是极其短暂的。你可以认为你还有很多时间等着你，但是生命的流逝的速度远超过你的想象。你的孩子成长如此快让你都感到惊讶。在你让自己生活运转好之前你已白发染双鬓。珍惜每一颗时光吧。

37. Fear will try to stop you. Doubts will try to stop you. You’ll shy away from doing great things, from going on new adventures, from creating something new and putting it out in the world, because of self-doubt and fear. It will happen in the recesses of your mind, where you don’t even know it’s happening. Become aware of these doubts and fears. Shine some light on them. Beat them with a thousand tiny cuts. Do it anyway, because they are wrong.

37.恐惧会阻止你的脚步；疑惑也尽量阻止你的脚步。你将对做大事畏首畏尾，不敢开始新的征途，不敢创造新的事物并把它推向世界，都是因为恐惧和自我怀疑。在你大脑休息的时候，这些想法就产生了，你甚至不知道他们的产生。清楚地认识到这些疑虑和恐惧，正确的面对他们，慢慢地克服他们。总之克服他们，因为他们本身就是错误的。

38. I have a lot left to learn. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that I know almost nothing, and that I’m often wrong about what I think I know. Life has many lessons left to teach me, and I’m looking forward to them all.

38.我还有许多要学的。如果说我明白了一些事儿，那么就是我一无所知和我经常的认为我自己都知道了。生活还有许多课程留给我们学习，我正热切的盼望着他们。