听爸爸的话：来自一位父亲的10堂人生经验课(2)
When someone doesn’t love who they are, they pretend to be someone else, and others end up falling in love with their mask, instead of who they really are. To keep the affection they keep pretending and performing behind this mask.
不爱自己的人总是伪装成别人，其他人爱上的是这层面具，不是真实的他们。他们需要不断地保持伪装的热情，戴着面具过日子。
If you see these masked tendencies in someone you care about, confront them before it’s too late. Because if they lock themselves behind a mask for too long they will grow attached to it – it will become their comfort zone. They will begin to enjoy the imprisonment, and if you try removing their mask to remind them of the truth, they will feel like you’re robbing them of their dignity.
如果你发现关心的人中出现了这样的倾向，赶紧面对他们。一旦他们把自己锁在面具之下太久，他们就会不愿意出来——这里俨然成为了他们的保护壳。他们会开始享受囚禁的过程，如果你试图去揭开面具带着他们回到现实，他们反而会觉得你伤害了他们的自尊。
Bottom line: Self love is the greatest gift – to live and to teach. The best way to love someone is to help them love themselves.
总结:自爱是最大的礼物——去生活，去教人。爱别人最好的方式就是帮助他们去爱自己。
7. It’s impossible to know exactly how another feels.
不可能知道别人真正的感受
The hearts and minds of others are mysterious, dense forests, always, no matter how deep into them you venture.
别人的心中和脑中所想都是神秘的，是浓密的森林。无论你多么了解一个人，你都无法真正明白。
Even if you have known a person for a hundred years, it is impossible to know exactly what they are feeling. You can’t feel something for them, or know exactly how their mind is processing something. You could invest every bit of your energy over the course of your entire life in an attempt to achieve this understanding, but in the end you will fall short.
即使你认识这个人一百年了，也不可能完全知道他们的感受。你无法代替他们去感受，或是知道他们脑海中到底在想些什么。你可以穷尽一生的力量来达到这个地步，但最终你还是会失败。
What you can do is be a friend who listens, supports, and loves openly without judgment. Only then will you get a momentary, unfiltered glimpse into their soul.
你可以做的就是和那些倾听你，支持你和无条件爱你的人做朋友。这样你才能在那一瞬间，得以瞥见他们的灵魂。
8. Connecting with your purpose brings great results.
有的放矢能带来好结果
Don’t allow others to convince your heart what to do. Your heart already knows. Listen to it. Don’t let anyone else distinguish what is right or wrong for you. You’ve got to stand up for something specific, on your own two legs, or you will achieve nothing great in life.
别让别人说服你该去干什么。你的心早有答案。跟随自己的心。别让其他人替你判别孰是孰非。你必须用自己两条腿站起来，为了心中所想的那件特定的事努力，否则一辈子都会一事无成。
Within you there is a formidable and undeniable sense of purpose. Success comes from making a solid and persistent connection to that purpose. When your intentions are supported by a ‘why’ that has meaning, you will find a way to bring them to life. Getting anything done is a matter of continuing to remember why you have chosen to do this thing in the first place.
你需要有一种深不可测无法衡量的目标感。只有紧紧地抓住和坚持那个目标，成功才会到来。当你的意图都被赋予了有意义的”为什么“，那么你就真的能实现一个个的目标了。做好每件事能让你始终记住到底为什么一开始选择做这件事。
In the end, focused and persistent effort always brings great achievement. When your efforts are driven by your purpose, you can keep these efforts going for as long as it takes to reach this achievement.
最后，坚持不懈地努力能带来最好的回报。当你的努力由目标驱使，你就可以向着这个目标不断地前进努力。
9. A positive vision makes a big difference.
积极的想象会产生大影响
Don’t just see things the way they are. Envision yourself in the place you want to be, skillfully doing what you are capable of doing. Envision yourself in this place living the life you desire. Allow yourself to dream in full color, and know with certainty, that this dream is achievable if you want it to be.
别一成不变地看待问题。想象自己身处梦想之中，做那些你有能力做的事情。想象自己过着一直盼望的生活。允许自己做个多彩的梦，要坚信，只要你坚持，梦想就能成真。
Envision the things you desire as being achievable and they will be. Envision yourself doing what your need to do, operating at your very best, and then hold that image firmly in your mind, day after day, moment by moment, as you step boldly in the direction of your vision.
想象你想做的每件事都是可达到的，并最终会达到。想象自己做那些你需要做的事情，并且做到最好，在脑海中不断地去想象，日复一日，分分秒秒，这样你就能紧紧的抓住自己的梦想。
Give this vision all you’ve got, mentally and physically, and you’ll be amazed at the energy and excellence that comes out of you in the long run.
拼尽全力去为了这个目标努力吧。你最终肯定会感叹自己原来能释放这么多的能量和智慧。
10. Your journey is ultimately what you make of it.
路是你自己走出来的
